I used to ponder the meaning
when an attractive young lady
(she could be 50 or 60 nowadays)
would cast a trusting smile
my way and say,
‘you remind me of my father.’
Was she calling me old (true ‘nuf),
a difficult, somewhat deaf defender
(also true), or childhood disciplinarian?
A boomer, for Christ’s sake.
Perhaps it’s my ego,
maybe just plain self-guilt,
conceivably a DSM diagnoses.
I don’t know. Anyways.
I’ve finally realized
she could pay me
no greater compliment,
no higher honor, than to say,
in whatever loving way,
(or not)
she thought of him. When
she looked into my eyes,
she saw him. The first man
she ever loved.
Look both ways to understand.
Try to see yourself as another sees you.
Mind the gaps for confusion and clear understanding.
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Gloss: DSM refers to The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the taxonomic and diagnostic tool published by the American Psychiatric Association.










